18 Aug 2009 17:26
Its not that , the traditional role in a family is where the man leads and the woman nurtures . Its natural . Not to be confused with abuse. its a partnership and we have different talents and to accept that both talents are important in a family is realistic . I don't compete with men . I like being the woman . How ever if I don't like or trust where a man is leading me , I just wont follow. now the part about woman's lib that I agree on is if she doing a better or just as good as a man she should have the same pay and opportunity . That doesn't mean a woman can't be smarter than a man. Its not dominate . because my husband and I accept this partnership , we wont divorce .
18 Aug 2009 17:29
You have never been a woman . And just maybe your generation will find out the old way wasn't so bad. Please , no one will dominate me.
18 Aug 2009 19:42
Reply to re by ***Olivia***
> Its not that , the traditional role in a family is where
More pre-historic thinking. It used to be natural. Now those gender roles are completely arbitrary and completely voluntary.
18 Aug 2009 20:16
Reply to re by ***Olivia***
In your last post, you said this:
But now, you're completely contradicting yourself with this:
If it's "natural" for a man to lead, then by implication it's "natural" for him to dominate the woman1, making all of the major decisions regarding family life while all you're left with is the responsibility of child-baring and child-rearing.
You can't have it both ways, love. You either want your independence or you don't.
19 Aug 2009 11:20
Reply to Re: by sebbenforte
19 Aug 2009 12:09
19 Aug 2009 12:21
I watched a few episodes of True Blood yesterday and, my God, what utter crap. The acting for one, is bad. The accent is horrible, the plot is pretty much nonexistent, and it's all in all, a very annoying show.
19 Aug 2009 12:58
It's a cult series in the making. You either love it or hate it ;-)
19 Aug 2009 17:37
Reply to Re by killara
I noticed the southern accents in True Blood were pretty horrible. Not as bad as Brad Pitt's in Inglorious Basterds, but still very bad.
20 Aug 2009 15:19
That accent was hilarious :)
31 Oct 2011 10:31
Kind of chuckling over how you seem to limit power struggles to heterosexual couples. But perhaps I'm mistaken concerning your ideas.
I do agree that some people simply don't have those instincts, but I wouldn't venture to say they're a significant portion of the general population.
I am assuming, of course, that you're taking offense to the domination of women who don't want to be dominated. Some do, whether it's as small as ordering her food, to as out there as spanking her when she's "been bad" and beyond. Because, I'm assuming here that you think people should be allowed to do whatever makes them happy1.
Also, how we evolved isn't irrelevant, monogamy is not biologically natural, most humans have the instinctive desire to continue the species, even if that means multiple partners2. A person is not "sub-human" if they need to be non-monogamous to be happy. If you believe that there is only one correct way of loving your romantic partner, it does make you ignorant. Monogamy is a situation that some people choose accept because it makes them happy, just as polygamy and all the gray shades in between are situations that people can choose to accept because that is how they express love.
I agree that some people, not all women, associate feeling feminine to being horny, and some people, not all women, take advantage of this. But I don't see the harm when it occurs between consenting adults.
Marriages end for more reasons than "because women prefer men who dominate them physically and emotionally." I will agree however, that failing to communicate sexual/economic/emotional expectations and preferences after and during marriage is a major reason for why they end. Also, where did Trillian "say [they] like[d] a man that is dominant, and in the same breath... challenge his dominance"? I don't see a statement of preferences though I would appreciate a pointer.
I also must point out how disturbing it is to see you condemn this power-struggle behavior, while at the same time generalize the male and female population into particular roles. Your sarcasm3 comes across as judgement.
Baaaaaack to the topic... zombies f03v@!!!
31 Oct 2011 10:43
Not all girls!
Reply to tired of fantasy by Trillian
Here is a girl who finds zombies really interesting and far from irrelevant in today's world. :)
10 Nov 2011 03:23
vampires... waaaaaay overdone. i'm absolutely sick of them
10 Nov 2011 06:13
Can't wait for World War Z to come out.
10 Nov 2011 15:37
Reply to no by ***Olivia***
watch now !!