Do guys like chasing girls or do they like the girl to make the first move?

chase what? what's the point of chasing girls? just stay on your computer.

I'd like to hear some guys answers to that.

Guys-
Women talk about this topic often. Many times women give the advice (to other women) not to pursue a man they are interested in because "it is a turn off to men". On the other side of the argument, some women feel like that's an old-fashioned way of thinking and they should be proactive about the direction of their love life and upfront and honest about their feelings.

Is this a game we are supposed to play where the woman is supposed to attract the man and be alluring, but act as if she could care less if he's interested so he can play his part by pursuing her? and at which point does the game end and an authentic relationship begin? Or are we supposed to keep the game going on some level so the man doesn't lose interest and start chasing something else?

OR
If a woman pursues a man, does he think she is overbearing, desperate, crazy, or slutty?

I've never chased a guy before ¹ but I do make it be known ² - if I am interested - that I want to be chased, if that makes sense. Sorta like you said earlier - we play our parts. Maybe that makes me old fashioned I dunno lol...worked for Gino and I though hehe :-)

So was ginola chasing you around, or what?

So, in your case, do you plan keep him chasing you in some respect forever to keep him interested and always working to secure the relationship? or is there a point where you stop and let him know he has completely won you over and there is no reason to chase or be insecure about your devotion?

No he knows I'm pretty much devoted to him lol....like he knows A LOT haha. I couldnt pretend otherwise ¹ even if I wanted too. I kinda wear my heart my sleeve. He's much the same ; )

lol - I would honestly say no real chasing was involved. We both knew what we wanted from the moment we first spoke. Each other. ¹

If you were interested in a guy.....would you chase him directly or would you, employ the old fashioned way & give him the 'glad eye' and encourage him to chase you?

I'm a contradiction within myself because I truly believe life is too short for playing games or hoping and wishing by the phone, and I am a very upfront and honest person (once you get me talking), but I'm also shy (yes, in real life, I'm quiet and shy) it's hard for me to get the nerve up to approach people, and I'm not very good at chasing.

I think the whole chasing business is silly. It's just wasting time that could be spent getting to know one another better.
Any time I've ever liked a guy I would just let him know. Saves me the bother of wondering what his intentions are and possibly one of us misinterpreting the other one. In my opinion relationships are meant to be fun and enjoyable, but that doesn't mean they're meant to be a game.

Didn't know you two were dating, I actually thought he was married. Good luck with the relationship!

thanking you kindly : )

I'm pretty much the most oblivious person when it comes to men so I'd rather he be straightforward with me, not exactly chase me just make me aware of his advances lol

On the opposite side I rarely crush on a guy but when I'm interested he'll know about it, I'm fairly honest about it all although I do have a habit of being complacent & it seems like I don't give a fuck when I do.

since the other guys are busy with chasing women:) i'll be the first to answer the question then.
yes i like chasing(not literally:) the girl im interested in. i like to be upfront about my feelings. that the girl doesnt say a decisive no to me means let the game start .
stage 1 : the girl seems to care less so i feel to be more proactive. i ask her for out.(brunch , lunch , dinner doesnt matter)
i openly offer her a hand in case she needs anything that i can help. just to be with her, i can join her in anything that i dont like for example a concert of a singer i dont like or an art exhibition i hardly understand etc. this is very exciting process because it s not certain how it will end up, it will turn into a friendship or a relationship. it goes like this for a while.

> at which point does the game end and an authentic relationship begin?

after a while , i start to turn off. i dont get as willing to be with her as before. i dont feel like taking a step to do for the relationship. its her turn to do smt. she should stop acting as if she cares less. she should show her feelings openly if she feels smt speacial for me.

> OR
> If a woman pursues a man, does he think she is
> overbearing, desperate, crazy, or slutty?

i think it has nothing to do with women. its more about men. if a woman pursues a man and she is very upfront and honest about her feelings. a man hardly say decisive no to her when he has no special feelings for her. because male kind can have sex without being in love unlike woman kind:)
ps there s always an exception to every rule.

> after a while , i start to turn off. i dont get as willing
> to be with her as before. i dont feel like taking a step
> to do for the relationship.

I was wondering why you don't seek my attention anymore. :-)))))))

I think guys chase girls when they see something special about the girl that it's not in the others .
and if the girl do the same in return , they will think she did that with other guys and leave her ,,
and sometimes most of chasing cases stand on a bets ..

Don't chase girls, let the girls come to you.

yes but that won't be love ,, that will be just for fun !!!

Thanks for giving an honest reply.

> since the other guys are busy with chasing women:) i'll
> be the first to answer the question then.
> yes i like chasing(not literally:) the girl im interested
> in. i like to be upfront about my feelings. that the girl
> doesnt say a decisive no to me means ''let the game
> start'' .
> stage 1 : the girl seems to care less so i feel to be
> more proactive. i ask her for out.(brunch , lunch , dinner
> doesnt matter)
> i openly offer her a hand in case she needs anything that
> i can help. just to be with her, i can join her in
> anything that i dont like for example a concert of a
> singer i dont like or an art exhibition i hardly
> understand etc. this is very exciting process because it
> s not certain how it will end up, it will turn into a
> friendship or a relationship. it goes like this for a
> while.

Sounds like a predictable game, and one that's been played out by many.

> if a woman pursues a man and she is very upfront and
> honest about her feelings. a man hardly say decisive no to
> her when he has no special feelings for her. because male
> kind can have sex without being in love unlike woman
> kind:)

This sounds like you are the type to deceive a woman (pretending to share the same feelings as her) just to get laid. That is exactly the kind of behavior that pisses me off. Not because you're having sex for pleasure instead of love, most modern women are capable of separating the two - if their partner is honest about their intentions. Your lack of honesty, and that you know before hand you are going to hurt her (instead of being honest and letting her decide whether to sleep with you with full knowledge of your true intentions) is piggish. You should exercise a little self control and take your chances with the truth. Some women will shut you down, but some are looking for pleasure and, not necessarily love.