I am in a group on the web where one of the members said she was diagnosed with terminal cervix cancer, where most people live about three months. I don't really know her but I think she is in her 30s. As far as I can tell, she is not really feeling the effects of the cancer. However she is talking about her joy in going to heaven and meeting her maker. That's fine but she seems to have given in a little too easily and may actually hasten her death. I felt like I should say something, but not something meaningless or make her feel guilty. I wrote her this: (martin is my alias on that site)

Christine,

It's good that you seem to have made peace with your situation. Everyone alive is "terminal" whether it is hours or decades away. I don't know the current state of how you are feeling, but if it is fairly good, please stay with us awhile, OK?

martin in nyc